When it feels like too much and you want to throw in the towel, move away, sell everything and / or start a new life - teach your inner child to take a deep breath and know 1) that you are loved, 2) you are good enough and 3) you are safe to relax. Your brain and body will remember these queues if you adopt this thought process and continually practice this. Studies show it takes 21 days for a new habit to become solid enough to not have to think before leaning in on it. Hopefully you don’t experience negativity every day, so assume this could take 2-3 months.
When something negative happens, it triggers an emotional reaction based on experiences in the past and sends a signal to our nervous system that we don't trust ourself, or the situation, so we self medicate with unhealthy habits (alcohol, excessive work, sex, food cravings, binging, insert others here _____).
Recognizing this and creating a healthy habit to replace the unhealthy habit will significantly change your life. For example, giving up alcohol will likely add another negative habit unless replaced with something at the same time of change. (ie giving up wine and replacing w/ tea doesn’t create a void in that space).
2023 was a year of searching, prayer and becoming a new version of myself, The healthy, happy, strong person ‘I thought I was,’ got buried by an injured shoulder requiring Cortisone shots, an injured hip requiring surgery and 6 month recovery, Shingles on my face and Pififormis Syndrome w/ 6 months of no weight lifting. I felt anything but strong, happy or sexy, I gained weight, my mood was low and I literally couldn’t do “fun mom” things anymore. I HATE saying “I can’t do that”, but that was my new life. I had to pivot, lean in on journaling, prayer, my small group at SBPC and cry a lot.
This prayer-filled journey led me to exactly where I'm supposed to be, turning my pain into my purpose, being a more empathetic trainer, prioritizing protein and macros to lose the weight and helping others do the same and growing my Shaklee business in ways I never dreamed! I earned a 2024 Kia SUV, earned multiple all expense paid trips (w/ car, meals, lodging, airfare, tips all included) and incredible gifts from Apple, Lululemon, and more.
We all have greatness within, your body has infinite potential, it's our mind we have to convince.
Healing is open to all of us, it won't be perfect, it's a life long journey, BUT FRIEND, IT IS POSSIBLE!!
Exercising / moving daily, eating whole foods, eliminating alcohol, sugars and toxins, setting boundaries, getting quality sleep, learning to say NO to what doesn’t serve you are all KEY. Progress is often slow, but with consistency, our actions will produce the desired outcomes,
Small achievements turn into BIG success.
Using the SMART method you will be able write goals that meet all of these criteria, and push you towards living your best life.
SMART GOALS
S: Specific
M: Measurable
A: Achievable
R: Relevant
T: TIME-BOUND
Learn more about SMART GOALS in my FREE workbook above.
YOU are in the drivers seat, do not let the cruise control take over. The windshield is bigger than the rearview mirror for a reason, we're not looking back, FULL STEAM AHEAD!
